Peacemaker?

Peacemaker. It's how I'm wired. I don't like conflict. I don't like the raising of voices. I don't like seeing people in pain. I hate abuse. And even though some of the guys I love the most enjoy ultimate fighting, it's quite strange and barbaric for me.
I hope that when people think of me they think of someone of peace...who loves unconditionally and genuinely likes people. Today God shed some light on this peacemaking concept. It was word smithed in such a way that it caught my attention.
Being a peacemaker is not being an appeaser. I have to be honest. I've always struggled with this. I've almost always seen peacemaking including having to have people like me and value what I have to say...sometimes at the cost of not speaking complete truth in order to get past the tension. As I see it now, that's appeasing. Tragically we can miss being true peacemakers and bringing healthy awareness to a situation all in the masked reality of appeasement.
I'm asking myself, are there relationships in my life....conversations I need to have...areas I need to lead in...that are being hijacked by a wrong definition of peacemaking?
I honestly don't have a hateful bone in my body, but I think if I'm not careful I could miss some God moments by being an appeaser. There's nothing peaceful about that.